Perhaps the saddest romantic scene in TV history

I rewatch this episode of Futurama, especially this scene, again and again, again and again and again...

One of the saddest, most heart wrenching "NNOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!" scene ever shown on TV. Only those who have been in Fry's shoes will understand. (Fry finally figured out how to express his feelings for his loved one only to have it all erased and went unnoticed when they solved the time problem.)


I was told that one will never feel the pain if he or she has never even started.


Know what? It's WRONG.


The pain and suffering are most unbearable when you were denied the chances to show her how much care and love you have for her. All the feelings go unnoticed. I don't guess anything I could do will ever make you feel the same way about me that I do about you... but I'm still hoping there will be chances.

Fry, and, all the lovers who are meant for each other: Please don't give up. If time could dissolve the feelings, why not giving a chance to let time to grow the love? The hardest love of all is the one we will cherish the most.

Source of sorrow: Futurama, season 3 episode 14, Time Keeps On Slippin'

The KEY to HAPPINESS from a neuroscientist

Cliffs:


-Results show that people who have everything they want and lose everything they don't want are NOT happier than anyone else


-Happiness is about the mental habits you practice from moment to moment.


Don't understand? Let me try to explain..


Some will already know that the brain works in a similar way to training your muscles. Just like how the more you train your biceps the stronger they become, the more you THINK about something the stronger that mental thought becomes, and it becomes easier to think about it.


Example.


Close your eyes and think about something you don't like about yourself.


































































Done? I bet you managed to bring the answer into your thoughts pretty quickly right? Thats because you've thought about this before. A LOT. You are GOOD at realising your flaws. People who are genuinely "happy" are GOOD at realising strengths.


Some people think about their flaws so much they start to see it in other people. You know the quote, "takes one to know one", the more you think about things that are wrong in your life, things that make you inadequate, the more you start to see it everywhere. It's because this part of the brain is the most active, and people like this are more often than not severely depressed. 


But if I asked you to think about someone who inspires you and you look up to, and the quality that this person possesses that makes you think this way, it will probably take you a little longer. Happiness is about controlling, cultivating and enhancing those thoughts.


Watch this video if you found this at all interesting:

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It is important NOT to equate this with "The Secret" stuff. There's nothing remotely like "positive thinking gets you free things" in this entire YouTube. It is about how one can be happy.


"The secret" aka "law of positive attraction" is BS. Great example: Don't worry about your bills and make yourself sick. But don't just sit there visualizing how awesome it would be to have all your bills paid off, to me that's fucking stupid as it is self delusional.


She's talking about cultivating meditative states like the Brahmaviharas. Essentially loving kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity. The idea is that they all work together and extend outwards uniformly and unconditionally (ie: we regard enemies the same as our friends or ourselves, etc). It's not 'positive thinking', because that implies a kind of compartmentalization or denial of the negative, and this is the total opposite. After all that would be the very antithesis of Equanimity. It's more about finding more natural joy where we can within life, making it more natural through practice, and producing more of it ourselves for the benefit of others, making these states more accessible and natural so we grow to embody these traits in our lives.



What the TED talk actually talked about was fairly uncontroversial, in my view.


Thinking in certain ways now will cultivate thinking patterns in the future. The brain works by building pathways when it first encounters an experience, and the next time it encounters a similar situation, it will tend to take the shortest route down those old pathways rather than create new ones.


If you are quick to anger today, you will be quicker to anger tomorrow.


If you are quick to forgive today, you will be quicker to forgive tomorrow.


If you are quick to recover your mood and stay happy, you will be quicker to recover your mood tomorrow.


"Contemplatives" are simply people who have tried to actually sit down and pay attention to the habits of their mind, so that they might clear away unhelpful habits, and cultivate helpful ones. There's no reason to flee if you hear their traditions brought up in order to figure out what might work in the modern world.


If someone had a compulsive need to get really angry at every little thing people do... wouldn't it be a good idea for them to go sit in peace for a little while and get their thinking straightened out as to why they keep doing this? It's only prudent. That's what a contemplative is doing.







What about the thing about "positive thinking"? I do think it's important but not that kind of "The Secret" hogwash. I have a different approach. To begin with, I may have no accomplishments to start with, but telling myself I'm a failure makes it harder for me to actually go out and achieve. I'm not talking about self-delusion like "I'm so fucking pro man." I'm thinking more along the lines of "I have potential, and if I work hard I can achieve what I want." Basically just ignore the "I SUCK I SUCK I SUCK" bit. Even if I didn't succeed in the first place, it tells me something honest about myself and requires me to realize that, "in the fist place", I sucked, I don't have yet the knowledge or the skill, a lot of times I don't even have the will. So I gotta suffer a little, even live unhappy a little, so I can learn something.


In addition, people can give up easily, including me sometimes, because of tired of the PAIN and SUFFERING... it sucks to hurt all the time and very hard to stop focusing on it because pain has a way of keeping my attention. So, in order to achieve, does that mean I should ignore and lock away the negatives in my life? No, I believe that we can slowly train ourselves to look for happiness from within instead of happiness from the material world or by people's expectation imposed onto us. Rather than repressing the negative we should learn to totally accept it and be at peace with it. It won't happen overnight that we can change the habits and our years of negative wiring. But it is possible, when we still have these little things called "hope" and "faith". These two hallowed words reverently dictate what you ought to be, what you can be, what you will be. They are your rallying point to build courage when courage seems to fail, to regain faith when there seems to be little cause for faith, to create hope when hope becomes forlorn.




Key notes:
- Assuming you suck makes it harder to try to not suck. (http://www.businessweek.com/lifestyle/content/healthday/637439.html)


- People who base their own self-worth on what others think and not on their value as human beings might pay a mental and physical price (http://www.apa.org/monitor/dec02/selfesteem.aspx). 


Results: Overall, students were found to have a high level of self-esteem. When students were asked about what they base their self-worth on, more than 80 percent said academic competence, 77 percent said their family's support, 66 percent said doing better than others, and 65 percent--70 percent of which were women--said their appearance.


College students who based their self-worth on academic performance did not receive higher grades despite being highly motivated and studying more hours each week than students who did not rate academic performance as important to their self-esteem, Crocker found. Students who based their self-worth on academic outcomes also were more likely to report conflicts with professors and greater stress.


It is important to know how you see yourself, rather than how would others see yourself. You are the mold of your life, shape it the way that will bring you happiness.

I have too many brain cells to kill with mind blowing thoughts.

Let's get nuanced up in this bitch. For example, I've always known that the human species has existed for around 180,000 years or something like that, or even if you cut it off when we could relate behaviorally, it's something like 45,000 years.


In any event, it blows my mind - even though I know I've always known this - that all of human history that we know of is basically recorded written wise within the past 6,000 years. 


There were at least some 39,000 years of relatable human history we have no clue about other than fossil records and some tools, and a whole 135,000 years where we've even more in the dark about the day to day lives of our ancestors. It blows my mind that the vast, vast majority of our time on this Earth was never recorded and thus we simply don't know about it. I don't know why it does, but it just does. And that's a small time scale. Thinking about time on the scale of the universe is even more mind blowing.



Think about it. How in the world did this first person learned how to start a fire? What was the motivation to start a fire? That crap takes time even if you know how to do it? 


And why in the world would they use fire to cook food? Why would they want to burn the food that was so hard to get? And how did all of them did it all over the world? Who was this smartest son of a gun?

But yeah, I love thinking about it. I know some people would go back in time and visit, like, Da Vinci or Jesus but I think I'd like a week observing our badass hunter/gatherer cousins in action.


As if my mind haven't got enough chill from it, let's do a mind travelling back to the beginning of Earth's formation:

Think of the time that spanned from the beginning of the universe, the first formation of molecules, the birth of stars and planets to the first life ever emerged in a habitable planet, it is so awe-inspiring to see that it took incomprehensibly long period of time leading to my birth! I was made of the star stuff that created the universe we've known yet I have no recollection of it. While I'm alive, I will be able to store memories and recall the past. I have a personality and a feeling of free will.


I will die at some point, and all of this will be gone. My body will stop functioning, and I as the world knows me will no longer exist. But the particles that make me what I am will continue on, and may even one day be part of a separate living thing. Parts of conscious organisms interconnected by time (eg. eat chicken, harvest protein and use in muscles) are used like passing a tool from an experienced mechanic to a novice, but between species.


Also, I believe there are billions of habitable planets in this universe, and of all these planets,  this is where us, the human life started here on this planet. It is the only place known in the universe to have written history. This is the place in which I was born, not any where else, this is where my parents met and conceived me, and where my grandparents met each other and my great grandparents before them, and all the history interconnected among them, the internet, airplanes, ships, smart phones. The entire world converged onto a singularity. We've made such huge strides in the last millenia or so years its absurd. I think my idol, Carl Sagan says it a lot better than me:


"From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of any particular interest. But for us, it's different. Look again at that dot. That's here, that's home, that's us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every "superstar," every "supreme leader," every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam."

How lonely was the beam of light? But it was there, I met my special ones. 

And who knows that all of the chained events since the beginning of time would lead to the writing of this post. It's mind chilling to know that I've got the chance to live on this planet, a place at which I could achieve greatness, marvel at the beauty of the life, seeing how humanity progress and... to be together with the loved ones.


Again, in a pale blue dot suspended as a mote of dust in the vast space of the universe, have you ever wondered how you ended up meeting the people you've known? And of all the random events that had and will be unfolded, what are the odds that at some where and some time, past, present and future, you'd be reading this post, my thought? 

Signing out. Before my sleep, I love to watch these videos again to give me peace and astonishment:

We are star stuff, the ash of stellar alchemy

Star Stuff

We Are Here: The Pale Blue Dot

Regrets Of The Dying

I haven't read such a good piece for awhile. Got me into some thinking. 


To quote:


"For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.



People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. 


When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 


1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 


This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. 


It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.


2. I wish I didn't work so hard. 


This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. 


By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 


3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.


Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. 


We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 


4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 


Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. 


It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships. 


5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. 


This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. 


When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. 


Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness."

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My POV: 


I think it's a lot easier to say things like this on your deathbed when you've got nothing left to fear. But life is complicated - the guy who ignores his powerful dream to quit his rat race job and open up a surf shop, or the guy who never tells his best friend that he's really in love with her so as not to break up her relationship aren't necessarily sowing the seeds of regret, they're making sacrifices for others. 


I'm not saying it applies to everything but just as saying "I wish I'd lived up to my potential" is a nicer way of saying "I wish I'd worked harder," so too can "I wish I had let myself be happier" can be a nicer way of saying, "I wish I had been more selfish."


Also, my thought experiment: 


Will the people on the death bed, if given another chance to continue living, would make actual changes in their lives? Or would they only work nominally toward happiness, eventually finding their way back to their same disappointing way of living? 


Selfishly to say I would love to live on a tropical island and swim, fish, watch TV and party with hot bikini girls for the rest of my life, but that just isn't possible. I'm not terrible at writing, and I'd like to write a history book for kids but I know I can't because I look through the blog posts all over the internet and I realize just how awful I am compared to people who are anywhere near getting even considered for publication. 


The moments before your death are like the moments after your birth, you naively assume you could easily do things like "be happy" but then you realize that its a lot harder when life hits you in the face.



Things get in the way of doing all of those things, though, especially each other. 


What if "being happy" for you means working hard to help others or secure a financially stable future for yourself/your family?


What if "staying in touch with your friends" means sacrificing time with your immediate family?


What if "the life you want to live" means isolating yourself from others and remaining stationary?


I understand that things like this are meant to provoke people into trying to better their lives, but I always hated that they rarely acknowledge that such "wisdom" in life can only come from those who are facing the end of it: all of whom probably heard this same advice some time within their own life, and so on. Worrying about whether or not you're living the life you want all the time can actually get in the way of living the damn thing, and just cause more stress and anxiety that just changing your perception rather than specific aspects of your life as it is now.



Regrets I have a few. Really the only thing I would have changed is I would have become a History teacher as I always wanted to and I would have told the girl I had a crush the most that I really liked her... but I can't stay in one place, always got to move forward.


Lastly, for those who is in their deathbed, thinking of ending or having a miserable life, watch the youtube below, it's pretty famous so maybe anyone who's bothered to read this has seen it before. It is one of the most smile-worthy, uplifting affirmations of life there is from a person who himself was close to death (and, of course, who is now passed on). It's beautiful and moving and he's got such an amazing attitude that it might encourage you a little. In the end all we have is what we have done with the life we have been given. Don't beat yourself up if you didn't achieve all your goals.

A long post just to annoy everyone

THE INTERNET HAS SHORTENED YOUR ATTENTION SPAN. FOR THAT REASON, YOU ARE PROBABLY GOING TO LOOK AT THIS WALL OF TEXT AND SAY TL;DR. IF YOU ARE ABLE TO READ THIS ENTIRE WALL OF WRITTEN TEXT FROM TOP TO BOTTOM WITOUT BEING DISTRACKED OR BORED, YOU PROBABLY SHOULD SPEND MORE TIME ON THE INTERNET. RESEARCHES SHOW THAT LESS THAN 4% OF XBOX 350 USERS ARE ABLE TO READ THIS ENTIRE WALL OF TEXT. ONLY 9% OF WII OWNERS SUCCEEDED IN THIS TEXT. PS3 OWNERS ACHIEVED A HIGHER SCORE OF 17%. AMONG PEOPLE WHO LIKE TO DEFINE THEMSELVES AS PC GAMERS, ALMOST 29% ARE ABLE TO READ THIS ENTIRE BLOCK OF WORDS. THE PERCENTAGE AMONG PEOPLE WHO DON’T PLAY VIDEO GAMES IS JUST ABOVE 34%. OF COURSE, THE STATISTICS YOU WERE JUST TOLD ARE FALSE AND MADE UP. IF YOU THOUGHT OTHERWISE, YOU MUST BE AN IDIOT OR A PC GAMING PRICK. DID YOU KNOW THAT THERE IS A PLACE CALLED THE SOUTH SANDWICH ISLANDS? THE PREVIOUS QUESTION IS RHETORICAL, AND YOU SHOULDN’T ANSWER IT. THIS WALL OF TEXT WAS ACTUALLY WRITTEN BY A NON-ENGLISH SPEAKING PERSON. IF YOU FIND ANY GRAMMATICAL MISTAKES IN IT, PLEASE IGNORE THEM. FOR REASONS BEYOND MY CONTROL, SPELLING MISTAKES MIGHT BE FOUND AS WELL. THE WORD “MIGHT” IS HORRIBLY SIMILAR TO THE WORD “MATE” BUT THEY’RE NOT IDENTICAL. SAYING MATE OVER AND OVER AGAIN IS AN AUSTRALIAN STEREOTYPE. MANY PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN CANADA, USA, GREAT BRITAIN OR ANY OTHER ENGLISH-SPEAKING COUNTRY CONFUSE AUSTRALIANS WITH AUSTRIANS. OVER 100,000 AUSTRALIANS ACTUALLY LIVE IN GREECE, NOT AUSTRALIA. MODERN GREECE IS VERY DIFFERENT FROM ANCIENT GREECE, AND THE TWO SHOULD NOT BE CONFUSED. THE CAUCASUS IS AN UNDERRATED GEOGRAPHICAL BETWEEN THE BLACK AND CASPIAN SEAS. THE CAUCASUS HOLDS MANY NATURAL RESOURCES, HAS THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN IN EUROPE IN IT AND CONTAINS ONE OF THE LAST UNSPOILED NATURAL ENVIRONMENTS IN THE WORLD. I’M NOT KIDDING. GOOGLE IT UP. THE CURRENT WORLD POPULATION IS 6,980,560,683 PEOPLE. THIS YEAR ALONE, 76,173,739 BABIES WERE BORN. THIS NUMBER IS MORE THAN TWICE THAN THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE WHO DIED THIS YEAR. SAVING THE ENVIRONMENT IS AN IMPORTANT ISSUE. THIS DAY ONLY, 11,985,000 MWH WERE CREATED AND USED FROM NON-RENEWABLE SOURCES. FROM RENEWABLE SOURCES, ONLY 2,884,000 MWH OF ENERGY WERE CREATED AND USED. THIS IS A HORRIBLE WASTE OF POTENTIAL AND POLLUTION AS 115,240,000,000 MWH OF SOLAR ENERGY STROKE EARTH TODAY. THE LAST FEW STATISTICS WERE TAKEN FROM A SITE CALLED WORLDOMETERS. YOU ARE NOW MORE EDUCATED ABOUT SOME OF THE WORLD ISSUES. WHAT DO YOU DO IN ORDER TO FIX THESE ISSUES? THE ANSWER IS PROBABLY NOTHING SINCE YOU ARE SURFING ON THE INTERNET. DID YOU NOTICE HOW THIS ENTIRE BLOCK OF TEXT IS WRITTEN IN ALL-CAPS AND USING A VERY OLD FONT? THE REASON FOR THIS IS TO MAKE THE BLOCK OF TEXT EVEN LESS APPROACHABLE AND HARDER TO READ. IF YOU GOT HERE WITHOUT SKIPPING, YOU ARE PROBABLY VERY BORED. LET’S TEST HOW MUCH ATTENTION YOU WERE PAYING DURING THE 5 MINUTES IT TOOK YOU TO READ THIS TEXT. WITHOUT REREADING THE TEXT, TRY TO RECALL THE DIFFERENT SUBJECT DISCUSSED IN IT. PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS TEXT ISN’T EVEN MEANT TO BE FUNNY OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT, IT’S JUST A MOTHERFUCKING LONG LIST OF WORDS. THANK FULLY, IT’S FINALLY COMING TO AN END. DON’T EXPECT ANYTHING SPECIAL NEAR THE ENDING. THE TEXT WILL NOW JUST CUT INTO BLANK, ENDING WITH A QUITE DISTURBING WORD SUCH AS MASTURBATION.

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Congratulations, if you skip the whole text altogether to see this paragraph, you're a certified ADD. You completely wasted my time of typing those big chunk of text. Fuck you, and here are two funny pictures for you jerks. 

A quick review on Google+: it's fucking better than Facebook (Also, I'm giving out free Google+ invite)

What the fuck is it?

I guess when you're reading this post, you already know what Google+ is. Google+ is a new social network from Google. It boasts lots of cool features. I like it upon my first usage and I don’t mind Google steals more personal info from me.

Circles 

Google+ Circles helps me organize everyone according to your real-life social connections--say, 'family,' 'work friends,' 'music buddies,' and 'jerks/assholes who annoy me'. In Facebook, the friend category is so rigid (virtually non-existent) so strangers, lurkers or not-so-close friends alike are all group under the same roof with my close friends. In Google+, you can share relevant content with the right people, and follow content posted by people you find interesting. For example, I might post an announcement about my engagement and show it only to people in my friends and family circles, or maybe I see a post from the circle I created for my book club that there's a recent article on my favorite author.

I can also decide to customize my personal profile information for my circles. For example, my contact details, location, and relationship information would be visible to your friends circle, while my employment history and education would be visible to my alumni association circle.

If you don't add someone to a circle, they will never get to see any post you make unless if it's public. It doesn't matter if they've added you.

Sparks 

Sparks brings you stories on the things you love from all across the Web, so it's easy to strike up meaningful conversations with your friends. 

When you first arrive in Sparks, you'll see a collection of featured interests. If nothing strikes your fancy, search for a different interest.

Let's say you're learning to juggle. You can search for 'juggling,' then add it as an interest so you can always be kept up to date on the world of object manipulation. And if you get tired of people calling you a clown all the time, you can remove this interest. 

Hangouts

Hangouts are the best way for you to say, “I’m online and want to hangout!” Hangouts lets you:

- Chill with friends that are scrolling through the web, just like you!

- Use live video chat that puts you in the same room together!

- Coordinate plans, whether it's working on a project or meeting up for coffee.

- Maybe you’re bored. Start a hangout, invite your circles, see who’s around!

- Start a private video session to show how well-endowed you are.

Okay, so, Facebook is good enough for me, why the fuck do I want to switch?

While functionally Google Plus and Facebook have similar abilities to handle the "Privacy" of the information you post on their services, Google has designed all of Plus around the idea that you will share most information with a target subset of your "friends". They have also provided a greater degree of flexibility on what details you show and to whom.

Facebook has a similar feature to 'Circles' called 'Lists'. However, unlike Facebook, Google+ is built around Circles and you categorise your friends in them when you first add them.

Apart from the privacy aspect, you have a new simple design with fewer colours and buttons. Some may find this a better look than that of Facebook. You also have the hangout feature that isn't available in Facebook. Facebook has recently added 1 on 1 video chat but G+ trumps this with group video chat. 

You can get news from joining Facebook groups but Sparks offers greater flexibility in that you can choose any topic you want and you only get serious news articles. This feature is yet to be fully developed and is bare bones right now. Google is also offering a great feedback mechanism that allows you to highlight certain aspects you would like changed. This is completely different to how Facebook has been operating and might mean faster fixes and more frequent updates.

General Points

1. If someone adds you to a circle and you don't add them, you can still see their posts in a separate section called 'Incoming'. Their posts wont appear in your main stream.

2. If you can't see posts from someone, it's because they don't want to share with you. Not because Google+ is broken.

3. You can see who your friends are friends with. This feature is enabled by default. You can hide all your friends or choose to only show some circles. Plenty of flexibility.

4. There is an option to make public posts that any Google+ member can see. This makes the service behave like twitter as people who are following you (put you in a circle) can then easily see the post.

5. Google+ enables search engine indexing by default so you may want to turn that off. Also, be sure to go through all the settings to make sure they're set to what you want. The default settings beat those of Facebook by far but you should still double check.

6. You can tag people in posts by adding a + sign in front of their names in a post.

FAQ (Fucking Annoying Questions)

Q: How do I see if my friends have added me?

A: When a friend adds you, you receive a notification. You can also go to Circles > People who've added you, and see if they are there.

Q: How can I see which group someone has added me to?

A: You can't. That's part of the privacy settings on Google+. You can only see if someone has added you. Not to which group. You will see everything that the person wants to share with you so if everybody gets a party invite except you, start questioning your friendship with that person!

Q: What if I wanna share something with someone that hasn't added me?

A: If he's on Google+, he will receive the messages from people who have added him in the 'Incoming' section (left sidebar). The same goes for you. If you haven't added someone but someone has added you, you can see their messages in the 'Incoming' section. This allows people to contact you without you having to worry about adding them. If he's not on Google+, he will receive an email with whatever you're sharing.

Q: What are circle and how do they work??

A: Think of them as social labels. They allow you to easily identify social groups and you can then choose what you want to share with each group. This allows for great flexibility so you're not sharing everything with everyone. You can choose to share your party pictures with your 'Friends' or maybe your family reunion pictures with your 'Family'.

Q: How does re-sharing work?

A: If you like what someone as posted, you can re-share it. Think re-tweeting like in twitter. When you share something, you're only sharing the original post and not the comments. Don't worry though, you can disable sharing so no one can share your posts. It's also impossible to share a private post publicly.

Q: Are there communities or groups that I can join?

A: Nope. Currently there are no groups but Google has talked about how they want to incorporate public circles which should act the same.

Q: I can't see a way to private message someone. What do I do?

A: There is no official way to send someone a private message. You can use the 'Email Me' button on someone's profile if they have it enabled or you can just make a post and share it with that one person. You can also tag the person in the post by adding a + sign in front of their name. This means that only that one person can see it and reply.

Q: The email button sucks! I don't want people to see my email!

A: By enabling the 'Email Me' button, people will only get a subject box and a body box. They will never get to see your email so it's completely private (until you reply obviously).

• Don't feel compelled to reciprocate!

This is not Facebook :). Just because someone adds you to a circle does NOT mean they expect you to add them to a circle. Example: I added Jimmy, an asshole, to a circle entitled "butthurt", but he doesn't know me from Adam, and I've never met him; I don't expect him to be as interested in what I have to say as vice versa! 

This also means you (ideally) shouldn't feel uncomfortable when someone you don't know adds you to a circle. They're probably not asking (or even wanting) to be your friend; they just want to see what, if anything, you choose to post publicly.

• Don't feel shy about adding people to a circle

and, contrary to my example above, don't ever feel compelled to tell someone what circle you've added them to. They can't find out this info themselves, and it's none of their business :p)

One of the cool things about Google+ is that you don't have to worry about adding too many people, or the "wrong" people. When you add them -- or anytime after -- you choose which circle(s) you put 'em in. Then you just post to -- and read -- what you want.

• As a good rule of thumb, try to reserve one circle for the people you really care about personally, that you want to share personal stuff with. 

"Friends" or "Best Friends" or whatever. Then, you can do two cool things:

- Add just that circle when you want to share something personal.

- Click on that circle name (on the left) when you want to read posts just from those friends, without the clutter from others (especially obnoxiously loquacious folks like me :p)

But then when you have more time and you want a broader cross-section, or the chance to get to know other people better, you can click on your "Interesting People" list, or even "Stream" (which shows posts from all your circles).

You always have the choice, and if you end up becoming good friends with one of those folks... just a couple of clicks and boom they're in your Friends circle :-).

More tips at here.

In short, I like it better than Facebook for its simplicity, bigger fonts, less complex, more privacy and ease of use.

Things I like:

-It's not Facebook

-Circles (great idea, but a lot of people will be confused by them at first and end up posting stuff not intended for public eyes)

-The Circle animations

-I can group people to my liking, friends under friends, jerks under jerks.

-No stupid games or event invite for now. Even if there's one in future, the circle thingy will decide which notification I would receive.

Things I don't like:

-If my friends share something I posted/shared, it shows up in my Stream again.

-G-Mail is not a tab in G+ like Photos, Profile, etc.

-If I have G+ open in one tab and Google in another, my notifications only get cleared in the tab in which I click on them.

-My chats received keep randomly going to my G-Mail tab so I will be waiting for a response and not realize it went to my G-Mail chat.

Things to note:

- No games. No angry bird. No Cityville.

- dislike Picasa. No photo tagging.

- can share contents to my target audience with ease.

- "other nickname" can't supercede real name.

- Hangout seems cool but no friends to talk to :(

Still a Beta version with lots of expectations. Feedback button is always up there to be clicked.

Fuck you, you said it was a quick review, so shut up already and where's my Google+ invite?

Alright Jose, chill out! Just post your email in the comment box. Please note that I also have work to do so please be patient and I'll attend to your requests soon. Jeez.

p/s: I also sent an invite to my dear Prime Minister YB Najib Razak. I guess he's "too cool" to accept my invitation and gave me a cold turkey instead.

This is how I trolled my PM without even going out for a rally.

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EDIT:


I'm going to further explain on the social circle stuff, which is why I think it's a great appeal and how it pawns Facebook on privacy setting:



Instead of saying, "I'm going to write a blog post now," or "I'm going to send an e-mail" or "I think I'll tweet something" you simply say what you have to say, then decide who you're going to say it to. 


If you address it to "Public," it's a blog post. 


If you address it to "Your Circles" it's a tweet. 


If you address it to your "My Customers" Circle it's a business newsletter. 


If you address it to a single person, it can be a letter to your mother. 


I'd say this is pretty revolutionary.


On Google+, your relationships are solely based on the information you are willing to share with them, which is a lot like real life. We give people titles but that doesn't "really" mean anything and your true relationship is based on what you wish to confide with them; like some people say "My Mum is my best friend" that is partly to do with what information the person is willing to share with his/her Mum. My Mum is not my best friend so I will not put her in that circle.


Example of a fictional circles:


Family (Mum and sibling)
Close friends (best friends I've met throughout my life)
Work colleagues (people who pull your legs in work)
Distant (Aunts who pressure you to get married)
Multiplayer pals (those peeps who pawned me in Starcraft II)
Childhood (People who as adults I do not know but they found me on the internet so I humour them)




Example of my information:


Summer vacation to France photos (all circles, possibly entire web, just to brag)
Look. Just bought a designer bag, guess how much!!! (close friends)
Just setup a savings account, I'm not spending money on frivolous things (family)
Photo of beautiful typography on a store sign (design buddies)
Drinks this Friday? (Korean friends, possibly work colleagues depending on my mood)
My first 6 months living in Seoul (family, Distant)
Easter weekend at the park with the *family name* (Distant)
Anyone prepared anything for the meeting on Tuesday? (work colleagues)


Now some of my work buddies are good friends so they are in two circles, but some are merely people I worked with in a company. I really don't want to send info about a new book coming out or a Terence Conran interview to my family so I have a separate circle. At the moment, work buddies is essentially my twitter but if Google+ becomes popular I can switch permanently.


Take your old school teacher, he is not your friend, you may introduce him to someone as "my old school teacher, and friend Mr. _____" but in a medium where all you are doing is relaying information to each other I'd be surprised if you put him into a friend category; I would put him into "distant relatives friends of the family" then he gets the info about you graduating from university or getting a new job and doesn't get the info about you phoning your ex-girlfriend when you were drunk or going to see the chiropodist next Friday.


The example is extended when a "university" is created, think of it again as sharing information... as a virtual school noticeboard. People you only know through Uni would like this information but your friends wouldn't, and you don't have to share personal info with the weird girl you are doing a group project with.


I think people have been indoctrinated into believing "social network" is just a website where you show off how busy your life is or how many "friends" you have, which it was for Facebook when it was first setup for self-absorbed, arrogant students at the most prestigious universities in America. It's a playground mentality applied to an online tool.


I know it is still early but I can see my circle groups are falling into categories that were previously divided between different online tools: Linkedin, twitter feed, personal blog, design work blog, email, and ironically facebook private messages... then if there is something I don't mind everyone knowing I'd post on Facebook feed.


Google+ (if it gains popularity) will be so good, it's your life and your interactions with people rather than a voyeur's wet dream/normal person's worst nightmare that Facebook is.